the sensual massage experience
ABOUT YOU AND ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT:
That’s me! Now let’s talk about you. You are on Backpage because you want something special. You want a body rub. You need to be discreet. You need to be safe. You want a beautiful woman who has no issues – no alcohol issues, no drug issues, no medical issues, no mental health issues, etc!!
You have so many choices that it should be easy for you to find exactly what you are looking for!! I am writing this description of me to help you decide if I am the right match for you. As I look through all the ads, I am trying to think of how to describe how I fit in and what I am like and what I offer.
I know that there are tons and tons of options available to you. There are literally dozens of websites and hundreds upon hundreds of beautiful ladies from which to choose. I also know that the decision of whether to select a service provider who only provides body rubs and no escort services or whether to select a service provider who provides only escort services or whether to select a service provider who provides both body rub services and escort services is a difficult choice you must make. There are many considerations. You may think that seeing a provider for a body rub with no escort services – like me – is better because you feel there is less risk of disease or because you feel you are not cheating. You may think that seeing a provider for escort services only is better because there is less emotional connection than with a body rub – less touching, less foreplay, just a quick roll in the sack, over and done in no time.
My reasoning is very complex. My reasoning is based on the answer to the basic question: why are you coming to visit a service provider? You have probably asked yourself this same question. But you are only one man. You think you know the answer in your own mind: you and your wife have lost intimacy, your wife hit menopause and gave up on romance and passion, you and your wife “grew apart”, your wife lost her great figure and great beauty and is no longer as attractive as she once was, you want sex but your wife doesn’t, your wife doesn’t understand you, your wife has become a bitch, your wife won’t rub your back and tease you seductively the way your body needs in order to overcome ED issues, etc., etc., etc.!!
And so, based on your own particular interpretation of your “issue”, you think that you need the tender, loving touch of a beautiful woman (a body rub). No doubt you have thought about this for a long, long, long time. This was not something that entered your mind for the first time today. It has been in the back of your mind for a long time, and it has been in the front of your mind for a while too. Perhaps you have even discussed this issue with a buddy or two. Perhaps they are in the same situation. Perhaps they told you about Backpage.
How many opinions have you heard on this issue? You have heard your own, to be sure. Perhaps you have heard the opinion of a buddy or two. Maybe you have even heard the opinion of a therapist. Maybe you have read a book or an article, perhaps several, on the topic. I do not want to say that I am the world’s foremost authority on this issue, but I do want to say that during the last few years I have heard literally hundreds of opinions on this issue. And I want to say that just about all the reasons I have heard, and this will probably include yours, are completely wrong.
You are not coming to see me because you need a physical release. You can do that yourself, and you probably do and probably often. You are not coming because you need sex. You could get that from your wife for a little asking, or if needed you could get that for a very, very low donation ($60!) from many providers, over and done in just 10 minutes.
What you want is something more than mere touching or quick sex. You want the loving adoration of a beautiful woman with an incredible body and a brilliant mind! You want a woman who will listen to you when you talk about the successes you have had in life; you want a woman who will listen to you when you talk about your day. You want a woman who will understand you. You want a woman who is mysterious, unknown, new. You want a new conquest.
Have you ever been around an old soldier and his wife when someone new enters the room? The old soldier begins to tell his story about landing on Normandy Beach during D-Day. His wife rolls her eyes and says, “Not that story again for the millionth time!” and leaves the room. The visitor listens enthralled. The visitor has never heard that story from anyone who landed on that Beach and listens with rapt attention. I’m willing to bet that your wife is a bit like that – she does not want to hear your stories, she does not want to hear about your day! And if I’m right, you probably don’t want to hear about hers either. That old soldier is not looking for a breast or a vagina: he is looking for an ear!!!! He is looking for a loving, supportive, interested ear.
Do you remember your first conquest? It was thrilling and exciting, wasn’t it? The hunt, the chase are great fun. But after 10, 20, 30, 40 years, the thrill is gone. The honeymoon is long over. You miss it. You would love to have it back. But you know your limits. You know your consequences. You know that you would completely alter your life, basically ruin your life, by having an affair. So you have ruled out that route. You have decided upon a less risky course of action. You want to get what you want, what you are missing, but you do not want to give up everything you have to get it!
I have often heard, “I have a wonderful wife. We still love each other very much. I don’t want to get divorced, I don’t want to hurt her”, etc. I have even heard, “This was my wife’s idea. She wants me to visit body rub providers and have my fun but just leave her alone.”
So you turned to Backpage, thinking that having a beautiful woman give you a complete body rub with a nice release at the end would satisfy your needs, only to be terribly disappointed. Perhaps you visited a woman who offered escort services, thinking that would replace your wife as she existed in the early years of your marriage. But you were out the door in ten minutes and felt cheated, despite having your way with her. You even felt demeaned, belittled.
You have probably felt cheated every time you visited a woman. You felt cheated because you did not get what you wanted! Here is the surprise: you did not get what you really wanted because you did not know what you really wanted. Since you did not know what you really wanted, you did not ask for it. You did not know how to get what you really wanted. You could not verbalize it to yourself, let alone to a woman you had never met before.
You thought you really wanted the touch of a beautiful woman or you thought you wanted sex with a beautiful woman. YOU WERE WRONG. You wanted much more than either of those two things. I’ll say what you really want: “You want the loving adoration of a beautiful woman with an incredible body and a brilliant mind!”
Let’s consider some of the bad experiences I have heard about, the horror stories of Backpage visits. Perhaps you have some you’d like to share. Many clients have told me about visiting absolutely gorgeous body rub providers but they left unhappy because the providers were emotionally cold, they gave “mechanical” body rubs. Their hands touched in all the right ways and all the right places, but they were like having a robot give a body rub – no human emotion, no human intimacy. Other clients have told me about visiting absolutely gorgeous escort providers but they left unhappy because the providers were emotionally cold, they did not enjoy themselves; they only wanted the man to have an orgasm as quickly as possible and kick him out the door moments later (no afterglow, no winding down). In some cases, the provider was stiff as a board and looked up at the ceiling and said, “Tell me when you’re done.” If you do not have a horror story to tell, you are a lucky man!
What is the common denominator of bad sessions: the woman lacked emotion. She lacked love. She was a robot. She just wanted the session to be over as quickly as possible. She had no interest whatsoever in you as a man; she only wanted your wallet. She did not want to hear your stories, about your successes, your life, your day. And she did not want to tell you anything about herself. She was with you for a very limited time for a very limited purpose. Give you an orgasm, collect a donation, and kick you out the door. You left with a big hole in your heart. You felt cheated, not because you were not touched, not because you did not have your way, but because you did not feel loved. When you left, you did not feel good about yourself. The visit was not an emotionally uplifting experience.
If you do not understand your real motivations in turning to Backpage to look for a service provider, then it is unlikely you will ever be satisfied! You will not get what you really want because you do not know what you really want, and therefore do not seek what you really want and do not ask for what you really want.
Mere physical touching and physical pleasures are not what is really the most satisfying to a man. It takes a lot more. It takes an emotional connection. You don’t want a cold, emotionless “session” with someone who is “doing a job”! You want someone who is emotionally invested in you – someone who wants to share things about your life and what you do, your triumphs and successes. You want a lady who will listen to you! And you want to learn about her in return.
If you feel as I feel about this issue, then we will be a good match. If you only want a touch, devoid of emotion, then we will not be a good match. If you only want a quick release, devoid of emotion, then we will not be a good match.
But if you want to be touched by loving hands and to touch me in return with loving hands, if you want to be satisfied in those loving ways with a passionate, loving woman, then we will be a great match indeed. I am looking for an emotionally satisfying experience that will develop a lasting bond between us. I am not looking for a slam-dam-thank-you ma’am, meaningless one-time experience. I want to be your permanent temporary girlfriend!
I would like to say that I believe in getting together for extended periods of time. Let’s be real – this will not be the first time you have ever considered visiting a woman, nor the first time for me, either! But I want this to be just as memorable for you and for me as that first time! Remember the song that has the lyric “It feels like the first time”? The writer of that song hit the nail on the head – there is never a time that we are more likely to remember than that first time.
Can you remember the times when getting together with a woman lasted 2 to 3 hours? Do you remember the anticipation, the slow gentle exploration of each other’s body, the spine-tingling excitement? Isn’t the teasing foreplay 99% of the fun? Yes, I know that most service providers -- body rub providers and escort providers -- want you to be gone within minutes of the time you arrive. Many gentlemen have explained those types of sessions to me. I almost feel as though I could write a book on them because I have heard them described to me so many times. And there is definitely a time and a place for them!! But that is not what I offer here. What I offer is one thing and one thing only – a recreation of the “FIRST DATE”!
It is pretty likely that you have spent time with more than one woman during the course of your life. Can you remember what made for the best episodes ever? What happened? What did you love the most? If you could waive a magic wand and make for a great, great episode, what elements would you want? What would happen? If you can just ask yourself those questions, let alone answer them, then I am probably a GREAT match for you.